What this means is that this agreement is intended to avoid gossip, lies, empty promises and other ways to create problems with our words. Just say what you mean, and realize that you can cause damage if you are not careful with what you say. If the agreements are sometimes too simplified, it is still a small book with some heavy ideas. Focusing on one of these chords can dramatically improve your life and reduce stress; Focusing on all four can really change a lot of people`s lives. If followed in a general and non-fanatical way, these proposals can help you reduce a large amount of stress by helping you avoid patterns of thought and behavior that create frustration, accusations, hurt emotions and other negative emotions. “The Four Accords” has left a permanent mark on my life, and I`m sure this “easy-to-read” book will do the same to you. Ashley Rao, of the Survivor Assistance Program, wrote, “Regardless of where we will end up on the spiritual spectrum – from skeptics to believers and beyond religious beliefs – the application of Ruiz`s principles offers opportunities for transformation on our journey through mourning.” [13] Rachel Thompson of the HuffPost says the book “is a very useful book that can be put into practice in everyday practice by dealing with criticism of all kinds.” Points to Be Aware Of: This is good advice to help you become less responsive, defensive and retaliatory, but keep it in balance. While everyone has their own prejudices and there is no real objectivity, you can, by never taking anything personally, your ability to see your own negative patterns and biased ideas, really limit and work towards the development of healthier models and lucid thoughts. As Scott Peck says in The Road Less Traveled: “The problem of distinguishing between who we are and what we are not responsible for in this life is one of the greatest problems of human existence.” It`s an incisive book, but a provocative and wise book.

Not only does it connect to your belief systems, but it also gives you a practical guide to improving these belief systems.